Sure, she’s nice to you, but she’s not very friendly to anyone else—her friends, your friends, or people in the service industry.“If she’s not nice to others, then someday she’ll treat you the same way,” Clark warns. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to get married (or not) or wanting to have kids (or not), but if you know what you want then you should work on finding someone who wants the same thing—not trying to change the person you’re with.
Wouldn’t you rather hit the gym or hang with the guys than put up with this BS? “This is a sure sign she is selfish,” says Jonathan Alpert, psychotherapist and author of Opposites attract, but not when it comes to values and world views.
As a die-hard Yankees fan, overcoming her love for the Red Sox might be sports suicide.
Some jealousy is understandable—but that doesn’t make it cute.
“Unless you’ve given her a reason to be worried, this is a very bad sign,” Clark says.
And she has a ton of guy friends—which is totally fine—but no girlfriends, because she “just doesn’t get along with girls,” or “girls think she’s a threat.” Give me a break. “A worthy partner has friends of both genders because she’s a good friend,” Clark says.
“And, obviously, her ability to be a friend is a good indicator of her ability to be a partner.” She doesn’t have to be after your money to be a ‘gold digger,’ or someone who wants to take advantage of you, Clark says.
“She is using you to escape her pain, rather than choosing you out of desire.” Getting a little history on her most recent relationship, to gauge if enough time has passed since her ex, is acceptable, as it’s important to ensure she’s had space to be alone.
Women appreciate men who make the first move, but if she’s legitimately interested, she will reach out in due time.
“Most people start out a relationship trying to be on their best behavior.