Sidebar – My readers will likely note an ongoing theme regarding my preferences for women who are not fat. So, I wait a couple of days before responding: “The pleasure is mine…but I am at a loss for your name…” That’s it. In her profile, she says the following: I have numerous “Viewed me” and “wants to meet you” but for some reason, no emails and I got stood up with no im sorry or I was out of the country, washing my hair, whatever you guys say- just nothing and no response to my email.
Finding a woman who isn’t tremendously overweight is very difficult in my age bracket. Worse, being overweight is physically sickening to those who have packed on the pounds, men and woman alike. There is something of a rule regarding the Game of waiting – double the amount of time it took her to respond before a guy should give his response. Hell, why respond with something longer when she only sends me less than a dozen words? OK, she sends out lots of emails to the best looking guys and they don’t respond. The irony is that she admits to it and then can’t quite get her rationalization hamster up to speed. For all the women who read my blog and play games when online dating by delaying responses, don’t play games, especially if you don’t like when men do the same thing.
Expect the same in return from anyone you meet when dating online. Call the person out on it, report his or her behaviour if it’s detrimental to anyone else, and move on quickly.
Don’t: lead someone on If you’re not keen, make it tactfully clear as soon as possible. If someone contacts you and you’re not interested, be respectful enough to send a short and thoughtful rejection.
A considerate “no” is preferable to a thumb-twiddling non-response that leaves the other person feeling they must have done something wrong.
Do: meet up in person ASAPA potential pitfall of dating online is that people can get lulled into a passive email exchange that lasts for months rather than actually pursuing a date.
Ask thought-provoking questions that will reveal insightful traits.
Take the experience of Paul who met his fiancée Stephanie through e Harmony.When replying to a match via email, use two-to-three-sentence responses.If in doubt, it helps to draft an email, walk away and return an hour later to review it, edit it and, when satisfied, hit send.Share enough to excite and intrigue your potential match, while leaving them wanting more.Follow this rule of thumb: keep profile answers concise and fun.“I recommend e Harmony to all my single friends, but caution them to be completely honest about themselves and the person they are looking for,” says Lynn, who met her husband Roger on the site.