“I dont really bring it up, not when Im first dating people,” she says.
“But Ive had people ask and Im always honest with them.
“As time went on, and I got more comfortable with this side of my life, so did the ease with which I told a man not to expect a tequila-scented smooch at the end of the night,” he says.
“I realize my blurting-it-out style was my own insecurities about sobriety.
Never tell on a first date“Never tell someone on a first date,” Davis says. Robbins seconds that, especially if youre worried that your health secret “is likely to define you before the person has gotten a chance to know you at all.” That doesnt mean you should liejust let your partner get to know you first.
“[Revealing too much too soon] may color how your partner sees you,” Dr. “It defines you before youre ready to be defined.” Jenny*, a 25-year-old graduate student from New York, had a breast augmentation when she was 19.
“And another guy became very controlling and tried to tell me what I should and shouldnt be doing for my health.
Um, youre not my doctor, dude.” Allisons dates probably have their heart in the right place.Allison*, a 30-year-old marketer from Baltimore, tries to casually tell dates about her multiple sclerosis (MS).“Usually Ill work it into another aspect of our conversation,” she says.“Its a lot easier to tell someone I have MS as a side note in a conversation than to sit down and have a formal discussion focused solely on MS.” However, even a casual, well-prepared speech doesnt always meet with success.“One guy just clammed up and didnt want to say anything or go anywhere because, in his eyes, I might get hurt,” Allison* says.“Its complicated if you withhold it and they find out too late.